A WRITER'S RETREAT

With Novelist & Screenwriter, Joe Smith

Humans are not solitary creatures. We are in relationship, always. 

With family. With friends. 

With work colleagues. With romantic partners/dates/lovers.

Do you ever ask stop and ask yourself,

“What is the quality of these relationships in my life?”

Is your relationship with your family one of openness and care?

Do you have the kind of connection you most want with your friends?

Are your work dynamics easeful?

How about your romantic life, is it as intimate as you desire?

Much of the quality of our relationships rests, fundamentally, on the skill and competency of our relating.

Relating as a verb. 

An action. 

Not something passive. 

High quality relationships, of any kind, aren’t something that just fall into your lap out of the sky.

They are something you work at.

Something you practice. 

Not by endless processing. 

Not by arguing and nit-picking. 

Not by doing your own inner process. 

You can dedicate hours and hours to meditation.

You can put yourself through thousands of asanas.

You can dance ecstatically every week in a room full of strangers. 

You can go to as many hyped-up, sold-out, packed-in workshops as you want.

It won’t make your relating better.

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Fundamentals of Authentic Relating is a self-paced course exploring, practicing and developing the foundational aspects of the energy of intimacy - attention.

This attentional energy is broken into three categories of: Listening, Expressing and Attuning each with a set of specific skills to be developed. 

Understanding these three different ways of using our energy, and developing the skill sets within each one, leads to an ever-increasing refinement of one's ability and capacity to create and maintain connection in any context.

Through developing this level of skill with others, we begin setting the stage not only for harmonious and easeful relationships, of any kind, yet also for something potentially much much more profound.

This course, even though it is self-paced, is actually a practice heavy, experiential dive into somewhat simple, yet infinitely deep, aspects of relating. Understanding and practicing the skills contained in this course leads to an expansion in “relational intelligence”, the awareness of and ability to shape and direct attention within human interaction.  

The development of this intelligence creates possibilities of increased experiences of intimacy, ability to provide emotional support for others, clarity in expressing desires and boundaries, enhanced negotiation and conflict resolution capacities, and an expanded capacity to explore the mystery of 'other'. 

Ultimately, through this practice of relating, an ever-increasing refinement of your own unique self, as well as the unique self of those around you, is enhanced.

This attentional energy is broken into three categories, each with a set of specific skills to be developed.

 

Listening

Expressing

Attuning

Understanding these three different ways of using our energy, and developing the skill sets within each one, leads to an ever-increasing refinement of one's ability and capacity to create and maintain connection in any context.

Through developing this level of skill with others, we begin setting the stage not only for harmonious and easeful relationships, of any kind, yet also for something potentially much much more profound.

This course, even though it is self-paced, is actually a practice heavy, experiential dive into somewhat simple, yet infinitely deep, aspects of relating. Understanding and practicing the skills contained in this course leads to an expansion in “relational intelligence”, the awareness of and ability to shape and direct attention within human interaction.  

The development of this intelligence creates possibilities of increased experiences of intimacy, ability to provide emotional support for others, clarity in expressing desires and boundaries, enhanced negotiation and conflict resolution capacities, and an expanded capacity to explore the mystery of 'other'. 

Ultimately, through this practice of relating, an ever-increasing refinement of your own unique self, as well as the unique self of those around you, is enhanced.

Embedded within this approach to relating and relationship are several very powerful maps and frameworks.

This training is multi-layered and has the potential to impact your experience of life in significant ways.

Attachment Theory and Interpersonal Neurobiology

A lot of our relational issues, particularly when romance and sex is involved yet also with friends and family, stem from early attachment injuries

Misattunement, invalidation, neglect and abuse, even by the most well-intentioned of parents, leave scars that tend to be the cause of our reactive patterns, triggers and defenses in our relationships

By being trauma-informed and understanding the basis of what forms trauma we can actually gently and patiently heal these traumas over time through the consistent experience of caring attuned and validating attention that facilitates regulation throughout the nervous system

"Consistent regulatory experiences over time heal the nervous system.”

- Damien Bohler

Integral Theory

This theory, developed by modern-day philosopher and synthesist Ken Wilber, functions as a meta-theory, drawing together the majority of human discovered sciences and explorations, into one coherent framework

Essentially it places everything in relation to everything else, allowing us to understand how it all fits together so that we may navigate this human life with more awareness

A large part of this theory is focused on understanding adult developmental psychology, how we as adults continue to grow. This is important to recognise as through the practices in Authentic Relating we are moving towards the capacity of maintaining Integral, or mature, relationships.

"Authentic Relating when really understood is, essentially, an integral level way of interacting with other humans”

- Damien Bohler

What We'll Cover

Lesson 1

:: Embodied Relating ::

We will explore the powerful synergy between the skill of receptive listening and the expression of vulnerability, while setting up a safe group container for the course.

Lesson 2

:: Reflective Listening ::

Developing this listening skill leads to a magical ability to really have others feel seen and heard in your presence, while developing deep personal insight. There is an entire world of subtlety available to discover in this skill.

Lesson 3

:: Curiosity ::

Curiosity is a relational navigational capacity that, when articulated with finesse, leads others to reveal their depths, creating the possibility of incredibly meaningful experiences.

Lesson 4

:: Desire ::

Desire as the guiding force of our innate expression of unique essence into this reality.

Lesson 5

:: Boundaries ::

The function of boundaries in moderating, mediating and modulating the act of relating and the process of relationship in life.

Lesson 6

:: Noticing, Impact & Resonance ::

Entering “we” space, the intersubjective field that lies between us as humans. Stepping into this field with others, even for a moment, can feel profoundly nourishing, expansive and transformative.

What We'll Cover

Week 1


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ABUNDANT
FULL PAYMENT

$500

WHAT'S INCLUDED:

  • Lifetime Access to the Fundamentals of Authentic Relating Course
  • 3 Months Access to Live Classes
  • 3 Months Access to the Community Board

This is the true value of the course, but we also want it to be as accessible as possible.

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STANDARD
FULL PAYMENT

$350

WHAT'S INCLUDED:

  • Lifetime Access to the Fundamentals of Authentic Relating Course
  • 3 Months Access to Live Classes
  • 3 Months Access to the Community Board

Please only select this option if the Abundant option is genuinely beyond your budget.

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STANDARD
PAYMENT PLAN

3 x $120/m

WHAT'S INCLUDED:

  • Lifetime Access to the Fundamentals of Authentic Relating Course
  • 3 Months Access to Live Classes
  • 3 Months Access to the Community Board

Please only select this option if the Abundant option is genuinely beyond your budget.

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WHAT'S INCLUDED:

  • Lifetime Access to the Fundamentals of Authentic Relating Course
  • 3 Months Access to Live Classes
  • 3 Months Access to the Community Board

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Hi, I'm Damien Bohler

I'm the head facilitator of the work of Evolutionary Relating.

I have been facilitating and teaching groups in intersubjective and relational practices for 10 years now. I have a diverse background in a variety of fields, a curious mind and seem to be a natural teacher and facilitator.

I enjoy creating safe and transformational group containers, and imparting complex knowledge in a way that is easy to grasp.

I'm motivated to offer this work out of a love for planet earth and a deep, compelling desire to contribute to human evolution.

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